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Is There An Easier Way To Build Self-Control? Podcast with David Desteno

Is There An Easier Way To Build Self-Control?

Podcast with David Desteno

DELIVERED BY The Wellbeing Lab

Today’s Guest:

David is a Professor of Psychology at Northeastern University where he directs the social immersions group. David’s research examines the mechanisms of the mind that shape vice and virtue, and his work continually reveals that human moral behaviour is much more variable than most would predict. He’s regularly featured in the media, including the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Harvard Business Review to name just a few. David is the author of several books including Emotional Success, The Truth about Trust, and the co-author of the Wall Street Journal’s spotlight psychology best seller, Out of Character.

In today’s episode David shares his research on self-control and why harnessing social emotions – like gratitude, compassion and pride – can be an effective and energizing way to improve our levels of grit.

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You’ll Learn:

  • [01:56] – David talks about the ability to be future-oriented and persevere to our future goals as an important part of life.
  • [03:27] – David explains why the human mind tends to discount the value of the future.
  • [05:01] – David introdues us to the social emotions that help with control and grit?
  • [09:03] – David talks about why people who practise gratitude, compassion and pride, demonstrate greater perseverence and less procrastination and how you can cultivate these qualities
  • [17:21] – David details the intersection between the social emotions and your ability to maintain a growth mindset as you go about your job.
  • [18:42] – David talks about how your biases impact who you will show compassion towards and offers practical tips to overcome this.
  • [21:32] – David lists some other emotions that play into our social relationships, impact the choices we make, and our levels of self-control and grit.
  • [22:24] – Lightning round with David DeSteno.

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Until next time, take care!  Thank you David!

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